In a lot of ways, I’m a very private person. I can talk abstractly about many things but don’t give away many specifics about my own life. Thoughts, emotions, anything truly personal doesn’t get shared with many people.
But when it comes to the events of my life, I don’t care who knows. That’s why, for example, readers were surprised to learn that 2004 was the worst year of my life, despite my writing about all the events that had made it suck.
IC, my husband, never got this. Back when we were just friends we would frequently argue about my posting of, say, photos of him on my flickr page. He didn’t like that random people would know about trips he was taking, restaurants he had eaten at or that he was renovating his apartment. For me, that kind of stuff was public knowledge and I couldn’t imagine caring who knew.
When we got together, he accepted that my semi-public life came with the package that was me. Still not thrilled that a thousand plus people needed to know about our new couch or our trip to LA, he mostly picked his battles where he could ie: “don’t post a picture of your engagement ring” and frequently lost those anyway.
So it’s odd, then, that lately I’ve struggled to share something with you all that has been monumental in my life. I’m pregnant, nearly 5 months now, due Feb.1.
It’s not that IC has rubbed off on me, it’s more that it feels too good to be true and when things are going really well I look out for falling pianos. In other words, it’s not the event that I’m reluctant to share, but the feelings around it.
I’ll just say this: We’re so happy, it still feels like a dream.
People who know have asked me if I’m going to have a pregnancy blog and then after the child is born, a baby blog. No and no. I have absolutely nothing original to say about pregnancy. The short story is that though mine is going well it still really sucks. Tired all the time, have to pee every 20 minutes, body losing any discernible shape, crazy husband monitoring how many diet cokes I drink and forcing me to eat because I haven’t gained weight yet (stomach sticking out but no movement on the scale), sense of smell at Superman levels which is not nearly as good a thing as it sounds (New York, you smell bad), I’m looking forward to it being over. And on the subject of babies, everyone says the exact same thing so I don’t need a new blog, I can predict what I’ll say right here: such hard work, didn’t sleep for the first few months, but wow so worth it when you look at this little thing you created, I’ve never felt such love. Sound about right, parents?
I do plan to keep this blog going, though. Alarming News has been around since 2002 and I really love having somewhere to go to write what I want, whether it’s on healthcare or Jay-Z, and I love my readers (particularly those who comment ). I know I haven’t been the most prolific blogger these last few months and I can’t promise that there will be more blogging once there is another human in my life for which I am responsible but I do try, and will continue to try, to blog something at least once a day. It’s just as much for me as for you, it makes me happy. And with that final sharing of feelings, I’ll end this post here. It feels good to finally tell you all our news.
Posted by Karol at 01:17 PM
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Am I really the first to offer a hearty congratulations?
Congratulations. And don’t let Dawn Summers anywhere near the child!
Very, very cool. Congratulations!
Congrats. You need to feel comfy to talk about some things…and don’t worry about the body stuff…and changes, you’re healthy, thats the key. So no diet coke, eat and smile. Enjoy wobbling
Sensational news. Congrats!
Congrats, congrats, congrats!!!
Sound about right, parents?
These experiences really don’t translate well into simple language. No matter how much you read or who you talk to, prepare to be surprised.
Congratulations! And don’t worry – sleep is kind of overrated as a pastime anyways.
Congratulations!! That news is not alarming at all!
5 months preggers and 5 months married? When did you become Orthodox? :-p JK
Mazel Tov! And remember, if things ever get tough, a beautiful new baby can easily be traded in for a 2010 Main Event buy-in.
Congratulations to you and yours
Awesome news, congratulations!
Congratulations, I’m so happy for you!
Congratulations! Wonderful news! We’re going to need all the new taxpayers we can get! How soon can you get started on another? Using Andrew Sullivan rules of gynecology, if you’re due in February, you could probably start gestating a second child in January.
I knew it! Sensed it way back then, with that post about new blogs you’re reading.
Congratulations to both of you! I think IC will be a crazy dad, much crazier than you’ll be a mom. A lucky thing, too, since you’ll be terribly tired the first three months, and somebody has to sing to the baby at 5am (why do I think it’ll be a girl?)
And Mark is right. Human words is a poor substitution.
Huge Congrats! I had a feeling the last couple months that this news was around the corner. I just knew it! You started saying you were bored and uninterested in the normal, political topics of your blog! Yep, something way more important going on in your life! Congrats again!
Congratulations! Just remember that twins can hide behind one another during ultrasounds.
Great news! Congratulations.
Congrats to you ma darlin! Congrats to the pair of you, wonderful news )
I think that you don’t need to apologize for not being a prolific blog poster, you’ve been busy GROWING LUNGS AND KIDNEYS which is WAY MORE IMPORTANT. But it’s great to have you back.
Congratulations! I’m happy for you.
And please, you know your kid is already blogging from within. “Mom ate a slice of pizza from that place I HATE again. I think I’ll make her pee.”
I was going to announce MY pregnancy today, Karol, and you totally stole my thunder.
And you might want to reconsider blogging about pregnancy and childhood. Mommybloggers get tons of advertisers and product promotions.
Wonderful news for the GOP in 2028 .
As to the diet cokes, my advice is for you to curb your intake of caffiene. I think it’s a diuretic anyway, so (if thats true) you might manage to wait 25 minutes to go weewee. Coca cola do a perfectly fine caffiene free diet coke in the UK, Walmart do a cheap own brand 2 litre bottle for the price of a can of coke.
Very happy for you – congratulations!
Wonderful news! Congratulations!
How exciting! Congratulations Karol! Red headed babies are by far the cutest…
I’m so happy for you both. Congratulations.
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