May 26, 2008
May 23, 2008
“I’m Your Man” by Nick Cave.
I started watching the Leonard Cohen documentary “I’m Your Man” last night (though I planned to see it opening day in 2006, I have still yet to watch it) with I.C. and our friend M.R. Both like Cohen but neither are fans and I knew in the first few minutes that I was going to fall completely in love with the movie while they would mostly tolerate it for my benefit. It opens with this song, Nick Cave doing Leonard Cohen. It’s like I had died and gone to musical heaven (and I hadn’t even got to the part where Jarvis Cocker does Leonard Cohen). We turned the film off so I could watch it by myself at a later time and drool over the performances of some of my all-time favorite singers covering another one of my all-time favorite singers.
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John Hawkins is no longer supporting John McCain. His piece is, as they say, scathing.
UPDATE: Shawn Macomber points out that John had written a piece last February called “Why You’re Going to Vote for John McCain in November and Like It.” Shawn notes “Well, maybe you still are, but he sure isn’t.”
I think when faced with the choice of Obama or McCain, John will ultimately vote for McCain. No, none of us will like it, but we have to live with the alternative if we don’t. And none of us likes that either.
“Depending on how you looked at it, I either had no life and I barely talked to anyone, or I spoke to thousands of people constantly.”
…is down but should be up soon.
UPDATE: They are now operational. Comment away!
May 22, 2008
“West Coast” by Coconut Records.
The song’s beat sort of reminds me of that horrible “Strong Enough” song by Sheryl Crow, but otherwise a great tune.
Via Dutch Boyd who always has the best music on his MySpace page.
I’m looking forward to watching Barack Obama answer that question. I bet most of his supporters don’t even know that he opposes gay marriage. They just assume the liberal Messiah must support it.
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Kyle Smith points to a Guardian blogger asking if the awesome, phenomenal, unforgettable show Mad Men is sexist. Uh yeah. It’s also racist, anti-Semitic, pro-smoking, pro-drinking and generally just a realistic portrayal of its time. And that’s what makes it great.
That’s like saying “Dr. Strangelove” is pro-war because it’s about a bunch of bloodthirsty generals claiming, “I’m not saying we wouldn’t get our hair mussed” when it comes to ten or 20 million deaths by nuclear assault.
May 21, 2008
“Magic Man” by Heart.
Bunni mentioned she was going to her high school reunion and asked for suggestions for road trip music. I suggested “Playground Love”/”Highschool Lover” by Air, off of the Virgin Suicides soundtrack. Virgin Suicides is one of my favorite movies, partly because of the amazing soundtrack but mostly because the story is so darkly interesting (I also loved the book). My favorite scene is when Josh Hartnett comes walking down the hall, jacket over his shoulder, past the cooing girls, to Magic Man. It’s just the perfect song to introduce his character, and no one has ever looked cooler. I tried to find the video of the scene but couldn’t locate it.
Here’s a live version of the song from 1977:
Remember when I told you to mark your calendars for June 5th? Ma bad. We had to move the party to June 26th.
Again, If you’re a NY-based blogger on my blogroll, you can expect to receive an invite. If you’re not on my blogroll, or if you are a blogger outside NY but plan to be here on the 26th, drop me an email.
Restaurants come and go, but I’m going to miss Florent. It was a staple of after-club eating. The food was so much better than can be expected at 4am. It was in the middle of nowhere, in the meatpacking district, until that middle of nowhere was featured on Sex and the City and became the hot new area (now the most nightmarish part of the city, by far). Rents went up, way up, and Florent is closing at the end of June. Get there while you can.
“Look, the Senate is a wonderful place. I enjoyed my two months there.”
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May 20, 2008
New York Magazine’s cover story this week is on the subject of why married men cheat. It’s the most obvious men want to spread their seed, we’re really just animals, we need variety, story you ever did read but one thing about it struck me enough to write about it: why is it that cheaters always want to change society so that their cheating can be accepted? These stories inevitably have the “Europe is so much more mature on the subject” subplots and I find that people who can’t keep the commitment they made to their partner want to have a larger societal change to make their behavior ok. The (married) author of this article is sitting in a NY bar and is obviously taken with the tattooed waitress. He writes:
Sitting in Schiller’s, I explained Squire’s history to my friend and suggested that we could change sexual norms to, say, encourage New York waitresses to look on being mistresses as a cool option.
Why do sexual norms need to change? Why not just ask the waitress out, letting her know up front that you’re married and she’ll get to be your mistress? Why not just tell your wife about it? Why do we have to change our collective opinions on marriage and fidelity so that this shmuck can have an affair with the waitress?
He then writes:
Polyamory is something of that fantasy I and other men I know harbor, of a community of free-loving people in multiple relationships. Not just dyads, or couples, but triads, or a woman with two “primaries,” a whole community of friends with benefits.
Who is stopping him from setting up such a community? Is he not aware of the internet where he could find many people just like him who want these things?
I think I know the answer to that one. The people who pretend to be so sexually open, who feel they are above the societal constraints of marital fidelity, they don’t actually want this open, sharing situation. They don’t want their wife getting down with their polyamorous neighbor. No, they want to have sex outside the marriage and come home to someone faithful and waiting for just them. That’s why the author hasn’t put “polyamory community” into google and seen what pops up. More:
If we simply got rid of a vow of sexual exclusivity and the piety around “faithfulness,” which is a religiously inscribed misnomer for sexual exclusivity anyway, we have no idea what the family would look like in 100 years, he says. Okay, most people would be sexually exclusive and married. But there would be a party going on at the other end of town, in a community of people of high sexual desire who understood that about one another and didn’t feel jealousy or possessiveness.
I like the idea of going to that end of town, but I also wonder how much time it would take. Would my new relationships get complicated? Bass said, “One of the tenets of polyamory is that it is honest and consensual: This is something that’s out with your primary partner. How many people are willing to do that? It takes a lot of work. Because it’s about relationships, not about sex.”
Again, that end of town already exists. Why doesn’t he just go live there? Why does the town have to change completely so that he’ll feel ok about skipping out on his marital obligations and hurting his wife?
Really: why is Hillary Clinton still in this?
I’ve run out of responses for people who ask me that question.
May 19, 2008
“If I Can’t Change Your Mind” by Sugar.
The second time I lived in Scotland (the first time was on a commune with Americans, Canadians and continental Europeans with one Scottish person in total, the second time was a more traditional Scottish experience, first in Forres, then Aberdeen), I met this group of people who can easily be described as Bob Mould’s biggest fans. I had never heard of Bob Mould (who, by the way, has a blog here) before but that would all change as I was regaled by stories of Sugar, Hüsker Dü and all the splendor that is Mould. When I moved to Aberdeen, I discovered that my group of friends were just a small subset of the Scottish Bob Mould obsessives society. Every record store featured a Hüsker Dü-shirt wearing dude behind the counter. Sugar was always playing. I always wondered if Bob Mould is aware that he has such a dedicated following in Scotland. I suppose he might since he’s kicking off his upcoming European tour in Glasgow. Go north, Bob. You’re a G-d there.
I took a liking to Sugar more than Hüsker Dü, partly because Sugar was so much happier. Hüsker Dü’s lyrics were always teetering on suicidal (”Too Far Down” was a crowd favorite, my friend Andreas would play it while we took the most beautiful, scenic drives and Mould would sing “I couldn’t begin to smile…”) while Sugar might have some darker themes but ultimately didn’t seem like the whole band might off themselves at any moment.
Anyway, today’s Song of the Day is dedicated to David in Aberdeen (who, sidenote, never ever comments here but whose lovely wife Steff, who, further sidenote, I introduced him to, does sometimes) of the awesome Scottish band “ditch” (yes, lower case d) because he twice requested a Mould song be my Song of the Day. So here you are, David. Maybe put some of your music up somewhere so it can be my Song of the Day sometime? And really, some comments wouldn’t be the worst.
The Oreo cookie arrives in the U.K. and Brits are not into it, especially the dipping it in milk part.
I was living in Britain when the chocolate covered pretzel was introduced. They ran ads explaining the salty/sweet concept to show it wasn’t entirely bizarre. Apparently, the Oreo is going to be an even harder sell:
No biscuit in Britain is as dark as an Oreo – even the classic Bourbon, two thin chocolate biscuits with a chocolate filling, is light brown. So admits Jocelyn McNulty, director of UK biscuits at Kraft Foods.
Some Britons might think the Oreo is strange-looking at first. But she’s confident that they will fall for the Oreo and what she calls the “child-like, delightful ritual” of licking the cream and dipping it in milk.
Others disagree. One tabloid newspaper has attacked those “Yanks” who are trying to “snatch the biscuit from our mouths and replace [it] with a tackier piece of inferior confectionary.” Another described the Oreo as “an imperial juggernaut of a biscuit backed by one of the world’s biggest food companies.”
Blimey. Will we Brits soon be twisting, licking, and dunking like there’s no tomorrow or erecting biscuit embargoes against the colonial cookie?